What's wrong with using lighter fluid to start fires?
it's only fuel!
As long as you have a nice open field, beach, or other large piece of land that doesn't belong to you, you can even use normal pump petrol. Just keep away others and yourself away from it, and pour all the fuel on BEFORE lighting it. Nothing can go wrong then.
In the back garden, however, stick to proper BBQ fluid, as the large petrol flame can upset ypur bneighbours.
I feel sorry for people who live next to me. Roarer stoves, flaring blowlamps, r/c aircraft and model rocket engines, and the occasional fruit being blown appart by air rifles. I'm surprised they don't hate me